Being Happy Is A Choice

Monday, July 04, 2005

Me and another colleague JR were helped to bring some stuff back to the studio from NUS on Saturday afternoon. I really liked the layout of the office. I've had an attachment program in Poly Yr 3 at a travel agency 2 streets away. The 2 offices were soooo different. The travel agency had a very 'solid' and dull layout with rather standard colors. And when I reached there early every morning, I had to be extra careful in walking up the narrow stairs cos there's no lighting there in the stairway!!! The windows they have at the top of the stairs are SOLID WOODEN ones. So the earliest one (usually me) there each morning have to open them to let sunlight in.

Ok, back to the story--- Waited for ZX to return to the office and went out to dinner at Ding Tai Feng at Paragon with her and MM. Chatted quite a lot of stuff, mostly about the temp job and our bosses. Haha. Apparently-- one of the bosses, Mr. A, who drove ZX from NUS to SMU earlier that morning, asked her what's my criteria for guys.

Nice question... If you know me since the days when I met my ex YQ, you'll know that my criteria can be quite..... errrrr..... weird.

After I broke up with YQ, I set down 3 most important rules:
i) I'll never go out with my ex's friends.
ii) I'll never go out with my friends' ex.
iii) I'll never go out with any guy who is married/engaged/attached/in a serious crush with another girl/in some sort of relationship.
But I guess, there's a hidden rule as well-- I'll prefer not to go out with a guy that's too handsome or rich.

When I met YQ at a school concert in 1998, he was everything I could have asked for. He's the friend of my galfriend's bf; he's super intelligent (he's a member of the MENSA), super rich (he lived in a bungalow, later at a condo at Bt Timah), super talented (he can play the piano, tennis, and goes yatching), super handsome (in my opinion).

At that time, I was---"Wah..... bingo!!!! He's sooooooo good. I'm going to go out with him." But being the ignorant and super-dreamy Sec 3 student I was, I didn't realise what lies beneath all that. I knew it from the start that our r/ship won't be a lasting one. I planned for the breakup as I plan for the start.. Hahah. Ironic, I know. But I just wanted to try and experience-- what it feels like to have a bf by my side. Part of it was due to peer pressure and part of it was that I didn't want to give up such a great guy. Anyway, I initiated the breakup 1 and a half months after we started our r/ship. It wasn't exactly very painful... Cos I knew right from the start that this day would come.

Since then, I've enjoyed my happy and carefree single bachelorette life. So if any one is to ask me for my criteria when it comes to choosing a bf--- I suppose my answer will be "Some guy not too rich or handsome". Hard to believe that a girl would actually give up a guy with such good qualities rite.... But the stress and pressure of not matching up to him is enormous... Really. Unless I feel completely comfortable with him and vice versa, I'll rather remain single than have a bf that's of such high standards.

That's one most important lesson I learnt from my last and only r/ship.

A Lone Fighter stayed home at Monday, July 04, 2005